What is it that interests you?
This is like a sorting mechanism for us, we pay attention to things we like, things that motivate us.
For example, going on a vacation, say you went to Italy, did you focus on:
- The people — their behavior
- The places you went to — Tuscany
- Activities — like cooking pasta
- Knowledge — the history of Pompeii
- Or things — like colored glass from the island of Murano
Why is it important to know about your preferences? First, it tells you what’s important to you, what you prefer to spend your time focusing on, what you like to think about. And, you can start to notice what others prefer to think about. Maybe there is someone you don’t get along with. Start paying attention to what this person tends to talk about. Maybe he likes to talk about activities, doing things, and you prefer talking about knowledge and models. Shift your focus to talking about how your ideas do things and make things happen — and become real activities. You might just see a new side of this person. Maybe he is not so difficult after all!